Chapter V: Part 5

Character is higher than intellect. A great soul will be strong to live, as well as strong to think.--EMERSON.

God has placed no limits to the exercise of the intellect he has given us, on this side of the grave.--BACON.

Every mind was made for growth, for knowledge; and its nature is sinned against when it is doomed to ignorance.--CHANNING.

To be able to discern that what is true is true, and that what is false is false,--this is the mark and character of intelligence. --EMERSON.

INTEMPERANCE.--A man may choose whether he will have abstemiousness and knowledge, or claret and ignorance.--DR. JOHNSON.

Intemperance weaves the winding-sheet of souls.--JOHN B. GOUGH.

Drunkenness calls off the watchman from the towers; and then all the evils that proceed from a loose heart, an untied tongue, and a dissolute spirit, we put upon its account.--JEREMY TAYLOR.

It is little the sign of a wise or good man, to suffer temperance to be transgressed in order to purchase the repute of a generous entertainer.--ATTERBURY.

Who hath woe? who hath sorrow? who hath contentions? who hath babbling? who hath wounds without cause? who hath redness of eyes? They that tarry long at the wine; they that go to seek mixed wine. Look not thou upon the wine when it is red, when it giveth its color in the cup, when it moveth itself aright: at the last it biteth like a serpent, and stingeth like an adder.--PROVERBS 23:29-32.

O, that men should put an enemy in their mouths to steal away their brains!--SHAKESPEARE.

I never drink. I cannot do it, on equal terms with others. It costs them only one day; but me three,--the first in sinning, the second in suffering, and the third in repenting.--STERNE.

Wise men mingle mirth with their cares, as a help either to forget or overcome them; but to resort to intoxication for the ease of one's mind is to cure melancholy by madness.--CHARRON.

Greatness of any kind has no greater foe than a habit of drinking. --WALTER SCOTT.

Intemperance is a great decayer of beauty.--JUNIUS.

Sinners, hear and consider; if you wilfully condemn your souls to bestiality, God will condemn them to perpetual misery.--BAXTER.

The habit of using ardent spirits, by men in office, has occasioned more injury to the public, and more trouble to me, than all other causes. And were I to commence my administration again, the first question I would ask, respecting a candidate for office would be, "Does he use ardent spirits?"--JEFFERSON.

JEALOUSY.--People who are jealous, or particularly careful of their own rights and dignity, always find enough of those who do not care for either to keep them continually uncomfortable.--BARNES.

It is with jealousy as with the gout. When such distempers are in the blood, there is never any security against their breaking out, and that often on the slightest occasions, and when least suspected. --FIELDING.

All the other passions condescend at times to accept the inexorable logic of facts; but jealousy looks facts straight in the face, ignores them utterly, and says that she knows a great deal better than they can tell her.--HELPS.

The jealous man's disease is of so malignant a nature that it converts all it takes into its own nourishment.--ADDISON.

Trifles light as air
Are to the jealous confirmations strong
As proofs of holy writ.
--SHAKESPEARE.

Jealousy is cruel as the grave: the coals thereof are coals of fire, which hath a most vehement flame.--SONG OF SOLOMON 8:6.

Yet is there one more cursed than they all,
That canker-worm, that monster, jealousie,
Which eats the heart and feeds upon the gall,
Turning all love's delight to misery,
Through fear of losing his felicity.
--SPENSER.

JOY.--The very society of joy redoubles it; so that, whilst it lights upon my friend it rebounds upon myself, and the brighter his candle burns the more easily will it light mine.--SOUTH.

The joy resulting from the diffusion of blessings to all around us is the purest and sublimest that can ever enter the human mind, and can be conceived only by those who have experienced it. Next to the consolations of divine grace, it is the most sovereign balm to the miseries of life, both in him who is the object of it, and in him who exercises it.--BISHOP PORTEUS.

Who partakes in another's joys is a more humane character than he who partakes in his griefs.--LAVATER.

Joy is more divine than sorrow; for joy is bread, and sorrow is medicine.--BEECHER.

Without kindness, there can be no true joy.--CARLYLE.

Joy is an import; joy is an exchange;
Joy flies monopolists: it calls for two;
Rich fruit! Heaven planted! never pluck'd by one.
--YOUNG.

JUDGMENT.--How are we justly to determine in a world where there are no innocent ones to judge the guilty?--MADAME DE GENLIS.

Who upon earth could live were all judged justly?--BYRON.

One man's word is no man's word; we should quietly hear both sides. --GOETHE.

Men are not to be judged by their looks, habits, and appearances; but by the character of their lives and conversations, and by their works. --L'ESTRANGE.

We must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ; that everyone may receive the things done in his body, according to that he hath done, whether it be good or bad.--2 COR. 5:10.

It is very questionable, in my mind, how far we have the right to judge one of another, since there is born within every man the germs of both virtue and vice. The development of one or the other is contingent upon circumstances.--BALLOU.

The right of private judgment is absolute in every American citizen. --JAMES A. GARFIELD.

The very thing that men think they have got the most of, they have got the least of; and that is judgment.--H.W. SHAW.

There are no judgments so harsh as those of the erring, the inexperienced, and the young.--MISS MULOCK.

The judgment of a great people is often wiser than the wisest men. --KOSSUTH.

Judge thyself with a judgment of sincerity, and thou wilt judge others with a judgment of charity.--MASON.

'Tis with our judgments as our watches; none
Go just alike, yet each believes his own.
--POPE.

JUSTICE.--Justice offers nothing but what may be accepted with honor; and lays claim to nothing in return but what we ought not even to wish to withhold.--WOMAN'S RIGHTS AND DUTIES.

Be just and fear not:
Let all the ends thou aim'st at be thy country's,
Thy God's, and truth's.
--SHAKESPEARE.

And heaven that every virtue bears in mind,
E'en to the ashes of the just, is kind.
--POPE.

He who is only just is cruel.--BYRON.

The sweet remembrance of the just
Shall flourish when he sleeps in dust.
--PARAPHRASE OF PSALM 112:6.

Justice is the insurance which we have on our lives and property, and obedience is the premium which we pay for it.--WILLIAM PENN.

Heaven is above all yet; there sits a judge that no king can corrupt. --SHAKESPEARE.

Justice discards party, friendship, kindred, and is always, therefore, represented as blind.--ADDISON.

At present we can only reason of the divine justice from what we know of justice in man. When we are in other scenes, we may have truer and nobler ideas of it; but while we are in this life, we can only speak from the volume that is laid open before us.--POPE.

In matters of equity between man and man, our Saviour has taught us to put my neighbor in place of myself, and myself in place of my neighbor.--DR. WATTS.

The books are balanced in heaven, not here.--H.W. SHAW.

Be just in all thy actions, and if join'd
With those that are not, never change thy mind.
--DENHAM.

The virtue of justice consists in moderation, as regulated by wisdom. --ARISTOTLE.

Justice is the great interest of man on earth. It is the ligament which holds civilized beings and civilized nations together.--WEBSTER.

KINDNESS.--A more glorious victory cannot be gained over another man than this, that when the injury began on his part, the kindness should begin on ours.--TILLOTSON.

Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things, in which smiles and kindness, and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart, and secure comfort. --SIR H. DAVY.

Kindness has converted more sinners than either zeal, eloquence, or learning.--F.W. FABER.

How easy it is for one benevolent being to diffuse pleasure around him; and how truly is a kind heart a fountain of gladness, making everything in its vicinity to freshen into smiles!--WASHINGTON IRVING.

Always say a kind word if you can, if only that it may come in, perhaps, with singular opportuneness, entering some mournful man's darkened room, like a beautiful firefly, whose happy circumvolutions he cannot but watch, forgetting his many troubles.--HELPS.

One kindly deed may turn
The fountain of thy soul
To love's sweet day-star, that shall o'er thee burn
Long as its currents roll.
--HOLMES.

We may scatter the seeds of courtesy and kindness around us at so little expense. Some of them will inevitably fall on good ground, and grow up into benevolence in the minds of others: and all of them will bear fruit of happiness in the bosom whence they spring.--BENTHAM.

There is no beautifier of complexion or form or behavior like the wish to scatter joy, and not pain, around us.--EMERSON.

KISSES.--A kiss from my mother made me a painter.--BENJAMIN WEST.

It is the passion that is in a kiss that gives to it its sweetness; it is the affection in a kiss that sanctifies it.--BOVEE.

It is as old as the creation, and yet as young and fresh as ever. It pre-existed, still exists, and always will exist. Depend upon it, Eve learned it in Paradise, and was taught its beauties, virtues, and varieties by an angel, there is something so transcendent in it. --HALIBURTON.

Four sweet lips, two pure souls, and one undying affection,--these are love's pretty ingredients for a kiss.--BOVEE.

You would think, if our lips were made of horn and stuck out a foot or two from our faces, kisses at any rate would be done for. Not so. No creatures kiss each other so much as the birds.--CHARLES BUXTON.

KNOWLEDGE.--Knowledge is of two kinds. We know a subject ourselves, or we know where we can find information upon it.--BOSWELL.

If we do not plant knowledge when young, it will give us no shade when we are old.--CHESTERFIELD.

In reading authors, when you find
Bright passages, that strike your mind,
And which, perhaps, you may have reason
To think on, at another season,
Be not contented with the sight,
But take them down in black and white;
Such a respect is wisely shown,
As makes another's sense one's own.
--BYRON.

Early knowledge is very valuable capital with which to set forth in life. It gives one an advantageous start. If the possession of knowledge has a given value at fifty, it has a much greater value at twenty-five; for there is the use of it for twenty-five of the most important years of your life; and it is worth more than a hundred per cent interest. Indeed, who can estimate the interest of knowledge? Its price is above rubies.--WINSLOW.

Knowledge is
Bought only with a weary care,
And wisdom means a world of pain.
--JOAQUIN MILLER.

The knowledge which we have acquired ought not to resemble a great shop without order, and without an inventory; we ought to know what we possess, and be able to make it serve us in need.--LEIBNITZ.

Knowledge is power as well as fame.--RUFUS CHOATE.

Knowledge is leagued with the universe, and findeth a friend in all things; but ignorance is everywhere a stranger, unwelcome; ill at ease and out of place.--TUPPER.

A Persian philosopher, being asked by what method he had acquired so much knowledge, answered, "By not being prevented by shame from asking questions where I was ignorant."

Every human being whose mind is not debauched, will be willing to give all that he has to get knowledge.--DR. JOHNSON.

That learning which thou gettest by thy own observation and experience, is far beyond that which thou gettest by precept; as the knowledge of a traveler exceeds that which is got by reading.--THOMAS À KEMPIS.

If you have knowledge, let others light their candles at it.--FULLER.

Knowledge will not be acquired without pains and application. It is troublesome and deep, digging for pure waters; but when once you come to the spring, they rise up and meet you.--FELTON.

Knowledge is proud that he has learned so much; Wisdom is humble that he knows no more.--COWPER.

All wish to possess knowledge, but few, comparatively speaking, are willing to pay the price.--JUVENAL.

Seldom ever was any knowledge given to keep, but to impart; the grace of this rich jewel is lost in concealment.--BISHOP HALL.

There is no knowledge for which so great a price is paid as a knowledge of the world; and no one ever became an adept in it except at the expense of a hardened or a wounded heart.--LADY BLESSINGTON.

The sure foundations of the State are laid in knowledge, not in ignorance; and every sneer at education, at culture, at book learning, which is the recorded wisdom of the experience of mankind, is the demagogue's sneer at intelligent liberty, inviting national degeneracy and ruin.--G.W. CURTIS.

LABOR.--Labor is one of the great elements of society,--the great substantial interest on which we all stand.--DANIEL WEBSTER.

Hard workers are usually honest. Industry lifts them above temptation. --BOVEE.

Bodily labor alleviates the pains of the mind; and hence arises the happiness of the poor.--LA ROCHEFOUCAULD.

Labor disgraces no man; unfortunately, you occasionally find men who disgrace labor.--U.S. GRANT.

If the power to do hard work is not talent, it is the best possible substitute for it.--JAMES A. GARFIELD.

It is not work that kills men, it is worry. Work is healthy, you can hardly put more upon a man than he can bear. Worry is rust upon the blade. It is not the revolution that destroys the machinery, but the friction. Fear secretes acids, but love and trust are sweet juices. --BEECHER.

Genius may conceive, but patient labor must consummate.--HORACE MANN.

God gives every bird its food, but He does not throw it into the nest. He does not unearth the good that the earth contains, but He puts it in our way, and gives us the means of getting it ourselves. --J.G. HOLLAND.

Labor, wide as the earth, has its summit in heaven.--CARLYLE.

Love labor; for if thou dost not want it for food, thou mayest for physic.--WILLIAM PENN.

Next to faith in God, is faith in labor.--BOVEE.

Labor is rest--from the sorrows that greet us;
Rest from all petty vexations that meet us,
Rest from sin-promptings that ever entreat us,
Rest from world-sirens that lure us to ill.
--FRANCES S. OSGOOD.

No man is born into the world, whose work
Is not born with him.
--LOWELL.

Labor! all labor is noble and holy!
Let thy great deeds be thy prayer to thy God.
--FRANCES S. OSGOOD.

LANGUAGE.--In the commerce of speech use only coin of gold and silver. --JOUBERT.

The language denotes the man. A coarse or refined character finds its expression naturally in a coarse or refined phraseology.--BOVEE.

Language is the picture and counterpart of thought.--MARK HOPKINS.

Felicity, not fluency, of language is a merit.--WHIPPLE.

LAUGHTER.--Laughter is a most healthful exertion; it is one of the greatest helps to digestion with which I am acquainted.--DR. HUFELAND.

Men show their character in nothing more clearly than by what they think laughable.--GOETHE.

A laugh is worth a hundred groans in any market.--LAMB.

A laugh to be joyous must flow from a joyous heart, for without kindness there can be no true joy.--CARLYLE.

One good, hearty laugh is a bombshell exploding in the right place, while spleen and discontent are a gun that kicks over the man who shoots it off.--TALMAGE.

Stupid people, who do not know how to laugh, are always pompous and self-conceited; that is, ungentle, uncharitable, unchristian. --THACKERAY.

Man is the only creature endowed with the power of laughter.--GREVILLE.

LEARNING.--Wear your learning like your watch, in a private pocket; and do not pull it out and strike it, merely to show that you have one.--CHESTERFIELD.

He who learns and makes no use of his learning, is a beast of burden, with a load of books.--SAADI.

A little learning is a dangerous thing;
Drink deep, or taste not the Pierian spring:
There shallow draughts intoxicate the brain,
And drinking largely sobers us again.
--POPE.

The three foundations of learning: Seeing much, suffering much, and studying much.--CATHERALL.

The end of learning is to know God, and out of that knowledge to love Him, and to imitate Him, by possessing our souls of true virtue.--MILTON.

Learning passes for wisdom among those who want both.--SIR W. TEMPLE.

Learning makes a man fit company for himself.--YOUNG.

He who has no inclination to learn more, will be very apt to think that he knows enough.--POWELL.

It is without all controversy that learning doth make the minds of men gentle, amiable, and pliant to government; whereas ignorance makes them churlish, thwarting, and mutinous; and the evidence of time doth clear this assertion, considering that the most barbarous, rude, and unlearned times have been most subject to tumults, seditions, and changes.--LORD BACON.

He that wants good sense is unhappy in having learning, for he has thereby only more ways of exposing himself; and he that has sense, knows that learning is not knowledge, but rather the art of using it.--STEELE.

To be proud of learning is the greatest ignorance.--BISHOP TAYLOR.

Learning is better worth than house or land.--CRABBE.

LIBERALITY.--If you are poor, distinguish yourself by your virtues; if rich, by your good deeds.--JOUBERT.

He that defers his charity until he is dead is, if a man weighs it rightly, rather liberal of another man's goods than his own.--BACON.

Liberality consists rather in giving seasonably than much.--LA BRUYÈRE.

There is that scattereth, and yet increaseth; and there is that withholdeth more than is meet, but it tendeth to poverty. --PROVERBS 11:24.

Liberality consists less in giving profusely, than in giving judiciously.--LA BRUYÈRE.

The liberal soul shall be made fat; and he that watereth shall be watered also himself.--PROVERBS 11:25.

LIBERTY.--The God who gave us life gave us liberty at the same time. --THOMAS JEFFERSON.

'Tis liberty alone that gives the flower
Of fleeting life, its lustre and perfume;
And we are weeds without it.
--COWPER.

The love of liberty that is not a real principle of dutiful behavior to authority is as hypocritical as the religion that is not productive of a good life.--BISHOP BUTLER.

Liberty must be limited in order to be enjoyed.--BURKE.

Liberty is from God; liberties, from the devil.--AUERBACH.

A day, an hour, of virtuous liberty
Is worth a whole eternity in bondage.
--ADDISON.

If liberty with law is fire on the hearth, liberty without law is fire on the floor.--HILLARD.

Few persons enjoy real liberty; we are all slaves to ideas or habits. --ALFRED DE MUSSET.

The liberty of a people consists in being governed by laws which they have made themselves, under whatsoever form it be of government; the liberty of a private man, in being master of his own time and actions, as far as may consist with the laws of God and of his country.--COWLEY.

The spirit of liberty is not merely, as multitudes imagine, a jealousy of our own particular rights, but a respect for the rights of others, and an unwillingness that any man, whether high or low, should be wronged and trampled under foot.--CHANNING.

Liberty, without wisdom, is license.--BURKE.

LIFE.--Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things, in which smiles and kindness, and small obligations given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort.--SIR HUMPHRY DAVY.

Catch, then, O catch the transient hour;
Improve each moment as it flies;
Life's a short summer--man a flower--
He dies--alas! how soon he dies!
--DR. JOHNSON.

Life's but a means unto an end, that end,
Beginning, mean, and end to all things--God.
--BAILEY.

In the midst of life we are in death.--CHURCH BURIAL SERVICE.

Life in itself is neither good nor evil, it is the scene of good or evil, as you make it.--MONTAIGNE.

Since every man who lives is born to die,
And none can boast sincere felicity,
With equal mind what happens let us bear,
Nor joy nor grieve too much for things beyond our care.
--DRYDEN.

Nor love thy life nor hate; but what thou liv'st
Live well; how long or short permit to heaven.
--MILTON.

The days of our years are threescore years and ten; and if by reason of strength they be fourscore years, yet is their strength labor and sorrow; for it is soon cut off, and we fly away.--PSALM 90:10.

A handful of good life is worth a bushel of learning.--GEORGE HERBERT.

Life appears to me too short to be spent in nursing animosity or registering wrongs.--CHARLOTTE BRONTE.

That man lives twice that lives the first life well.--HERRICK.

He most lives who thinks most, feels the noblest, acts the best; and he whose heart beats the quickest lives the longest.--JAMES MARTINEAU.

Life is probation: mortal man was made
To solve the solemn problem--right or wrong.
--JOHN QUINCY ADAMS.

Live virtuously, my lord, and you cannot die too soon, nor live too long.--LADY RACHEL RUSSELL.

Our life contains a thousand springs,
And dies if one be gone;
Strange that a harp of thousand strings
Should keep in tune so long.
--DR. WATTS.

And he that lives to live forever never fears dying.--WILLIAM PENN.

We live in deeds, not years; in thought, not breaths;
In feelings, not in figures on a dial.
We should count time by heart-throbs. He most lives,
Who thinks most, feels the noblest, acts the best.
--BAILEY.

This is the state of man; to-day he puts forth
The tender leaves of hope, to-morrow blossoms,
And bears his blushing honors thick upon him:
The third day, comes a frost, a killing frost;
And,--when he thinks, good easy man, full surely
His greatness is a ripening,--nips his root,
And then he falls.
--SHAKESPEARE.

The end of life is to be like unto God; and the soul following God, will be like unto Him; He being the beginning, middle, and end of all things.--SOCRATES.

For we are but of yesterday, and know nothing, because our days upon earth are a shadow.--JOB 8:9.

You and I are now nearly in middle age, and have not yet become soured and shrivelled with the wear and tear of life. Let us pray to be delivered from that condition where life and nature have no fresh, sweet sensations for us.--JAMES A. GARFIELD.

It matters not how a man dies, but how he lives.--DR. JOHNSON.

I slept and dreamed that life was beauty;
I woke and found that life was duty.
--ELLEN STURGIS HOOPER.

The truest end of life is to know the life that never ends.--WILLIAM PENN.

Let those who thoughtfully consider the brevity of life remember the length of eternity.--BISHOP KEN.

LIGHT.--We should render thanks to God for having produced this temporal light, which is the smile of heaven and joy of the world, spreading it like a cloth of gold over the face of the air and earth, and lighting it as a torch by which we might behold His works.--CAUSSIN.

Hail, holy light! offspring of heaven first-born.--MILTON.

Light itself is a great corrective. A thousand wrongs and abuses that are grown in darkness disappear, like owls and bats, before the light of day.--JAMES A. GARFIELD.

I am the light of the world.--JOHN 9:5.

No wonder that light is so frequently used by the sacred oracles as the symbol of our best blessings. Of the Gospel revelation one apostle says, "The night is far spent, and the day is at hand." Another, under the impression of the same auspicious event, thus applied the language of ancient prophecy: "The people who sat in darkness have seen a great light; and to them which sat in the region and shadow of death light is sprung up."--BASELEY.

The light in the world comes principally from two sources,--the sun, and the student's lamp.--BOVEE.

LOVE.--Love is the purification of the heart from self; it strengthens and ennobles the character, gives higher motives and a nobler aim to every action of life, and makes both man and woman strong, noble, and courageous.--MISS JEWSBURY.

We never can willingly offend where we sincerely love.--ROWLAND HILL.

It is difficult to know at what moment love begins; it is less difficult to know it has begun. A thousand heralds proclaim it to the listening air, a thousand messengers betray it to the eye. Tone, act, attitude and look, the signals upon the countenance, the electric telegraph of touch,--all these betray the yielding citadel before the word itself is uttered, which, like the key surrendered, opens every avenue and gate of entrance, and renders retreat impossible.--LONGFELLOW.

Love and you shall be loved. All love is mathematically just, as much as the two sides of an algebraic equation.--EMERSON.

If there is anything that keeps the mind open to angel visits, and repels the ministry of ill, it is human love.--N.P. WILLIS.

The first symptom of true love in a young man is timidity, in a girl it is boldness. The two sexes have a tendency to approach, and each assumes the qualities of the other.--VICTOR HUGO.

The lover's pleasure, like that of the hunter, is in the chase, and the brightest beauty loses half its merit, as the flower its perfume, when the willing hand can reach it too easily. There must be doubt; there must be difficulty and danger.--WALTER SCOTT.

Love is of all stimulants the most powerful. It sharpens the wits like danger, and the memory like hatred; it spurs the will like ambition; it intoxicates like wine.--A.B. EDWARDS.

Let those love now who never loved before,
Let those that always loved now love the more.
--PARNELL.

Love rules the court, the camp, the grove,
And men below, and saints above;
For love is heaven, and heaven is love.
--SCOTT.

If thou neglectest thy love to thy neighbor, in vain thou professest thy love to God; for by thy love to God the love to thy neighbor is begotten, and by the love to thy neighbor, thy love to God is nourished.--QUARLES.

Love's like the measles--all the worse when it comes late in life. --JERROLD.

Love is strong as death. Many waters cannot quench love, neither can the floods drown it: if a man would give all the substance of his house for love, it would utterly be contemned.--SONG OF SOLOMON 8:6-7.

Love is the fulfilling of the law.--ROMANS 13:10.

Love's sweetest meanings are unspoken; the full heart knows no rhetoric of words.--BOVEE.

A woman is more considerate in affairs of love than a man; because love is more the study and business of her life.--WASHINGTON IRVING.

Love, it has been said, flows downward. The love of parents for their children has always been far more powerful than that of children for their parents; and who among the sons of men ever loved God with a thousandth part of the love which God has manifested to us?--HARE.

It is better to desire than to enjoy, to love than to be loved. --HAZLITT.

Who never loved ne'er suffered; he feels nothing,
Who nothing feels but for himself alone.
--YOUNG.

Love why do we one passion call,
When 'tis a compound of them all?
Where hot and cold, where sharp and sweet,
In all their equipages meet;
Where pleasures mix'd with pains appear,
Sorrow with joy, and hope with fear.
--SWIFT.

Nothing more excites to everything noble and generous, than virtuous love.--HENRY HOME.

Love, free as air, at sight of human ties,
Spreads his light wings, and in a moment flies.
--POPE.

But there's nothing half so sweet in life
As love's young dream.
--MOORE.

They do not love, that do not show their love.
--SHAKESPEARE.

Love keeps the cold out better than a cloak. It serves for food and raiment.--LONGFELLOW.

That you may be beloved, be amiable.--OVID.

All these inconveniences are incidents to love: reproaches, jealousies, quarrels, reconcilements, war, and then peace.--TERENCE.

Love seizes on us suddenly, without giving warning, and our disposition or our weakness favors the surprise; one look, one glance from the fair, fixes and determines us. Friendship, on the contrary, is a long time forming; it is of slow growth, through many trials and months of familiarity.--LA BRUYÈRE.

Love is a child that talks in broken language,
Yet then he speaks most plain.
--DRYDEN.

Love that has nothing but beauty to keep it in good health, is short-lived.--ERASMUS.

No cord or cable can draw so forcibly, or bind so fast, as love can do with only a single thread.--BURTON.

It is possible that a man can be so changed by love, that one could not recognize him to be the same person.--TERENCE.

Only those who love with the heart can animate the love of others. --ABEL STEVENS.

If a man really loves a woman, of course he wouldn't marry her for the world, if he were not quite sure that he was the best person she could by any possibility marry.--HOLMES.

True love is humble, thereby is it known;
Girded for service, seeking not its own;
Vaunts not itself, but speaks in self-dispraise.
--ABRAHAM COLES.

Love without faith is as bad as faith without love.--BEECHER.

MAN.--Man is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man.--1 COR. 11:7.

Do you know what a man is? Are not birth, beauty, good shape, discourse, manhood, learning, gentleness, virtue, youth, liberality, and such like, the spice and salt that season a man?--SHAKESPEARE.

A man may twist as he pleases, and do what he pleases, but he inevitably comes back to the track to which nature has destined him.--GOETHE.

Men may rise on stepping-stones of their dead selves to higher things. --TENNYSON.

It is an error to suppose that a man belongs to himself. No man does. He belongs to his wife, or his children, or his relations, or to his creditors, or to society in some form or other.--G.A. SALA.

The record of life runs thus: Man creeps into childhood,--bounds into youth,--sobers into manhood,--softens into age,--totters into second childhood, and slumbers into the cradle prepared for him,--thence to be watched and cared for.--HENRY GILES.

How poor, how rich, how abject, how august,
How complicate, how wonderful, is man!
--YOUNG.

He is the whole encyclopædia of facts. The creation of a thousand forests is in one acorn; and Egypt, Greece, Rome, Gaul, Britain, America, lie folded already in the first man.--EMERSON.

Man is an animal that cooks his victuals.--BURKE.

Man is an animal that makes bargains; no other animal does this,--one dog does not change a bone with another.--ADAM SMITH.

Know then thyself, presume not God to scan;
The proper study of mankind is man.
--POPE.

His life was gentle; and the elements
So mix'd in him, that nature might stand up
And say to all the world, "This was a man!"
--SHAKESPEARE.

Man that is born of woman is of few days, and full of trouble. --JOB 14:1.

Make yourself an honest man, and then you may be sure that there is one rascal less in the world.--CARLYLE.

An individual man is a fruit which it cost all the foregoing ages to form and ripen. He is strong, not to do, but to live; not in his arms, but in his heart; not as an agent, but as a fact.--EMERSON.

What a piece of work is a man! How noble in reason! how infinite in faculties! in form and moving how express and admirable! in action, how like an angel! in apprehension, how like a god!--SHAKESPEARE.

There are but three classes of men, the retrograde, the stationary, and the progressive.--LAVATER.

Before man made us citizens, great nature made us men.--LOWELL.

MANNERS.--Evil communications corrupt good manners.--1 COR. 15:33.

The person who screams, or uses the superlative degree, or converses with heat puts whole drawing-rooms to flight. If you wish to be loved, love measure.--EMERSON.

Good manners is the art of making those people easy with whom we converse.--SWIFT.

I really think next to the consciousness of doing a good action, that of doing a civil one is the most pleasing; and the epithet which I should covet the most next to that of Aristides, would be that of well-bred.--CHESTERFIELD.

A man's worth is estimated in this world according to his conduct. --LA BRUYÈRE.

There is certainly something of exquisite kindness and thoughtful benevolence in that rarest of gifts,--fine breeding.--LYTTON.

In the society of ladies, want of sense is not so unpardonable as want of manners.--LAVATER.

Good manners are a part of good morals.--WHATLEY.

One principal part of good breeding is to suit our behavior to the three several degrees of men: our superiors, our equals, and those below us.--SWIFT.

As a man's salutations, so is the total of his character; in nothing do we lay ourselves so open as in our manner of meeting and salutation.--LAVATER.

Grace is to the body what good sense is to the mind.--LA ROCHEFOUCAULD.

Manners are the happy ways of doing things; each one a stroke of genius or of love, now repeated and hardened into usage, they form at last a rich varnish, with which the routine of life is washed, and its details adorned. If they are superficial, so are the dew-drops which give such a depth to the morning meadows.--EMERSON.

Manners are what vex or soothe, corrupt or purify, exalt or debase, barbarize or refine, by a constant, steady, uniform, insensible operation, like that of the air we breathe in. They give their whole form and colors to our lives. According to their quality they aid morals, they supply them, or they totally destroy them.--BURKE.

Good breeding is the result of much good sense, some good nature, and a little self-denial for the sake of others, and with a view to obtain the same indulgence from them.--CHESTERFIELD.

To be good and disagreeable is high treason against the royalty of virtue.--HANNAH MORE.

A man's own good breeding is the best security against other people's ill manners.--CHESTERFIELD.

The distinguishing trait of people accustomed to good society is a calm, imperturbable quiet which pervades all their actions and habits, from the greatest to the least. They eat in quiet, move in quiet, live in quiet, and lose their wife, or even their money, in quiet; while low persons cannot take up either a spoon or an affront without making such an amazing noise about it.--LYTTON.

MARRIAGE.--Save the love we pay to heaven, there is none purer, holier, than that a virtuous woman feels for him she would cleave through life to. Sisters part from sisters, brothers from brothers, children from their parents, but such woman from the husband of her choice, never!--SHERIDAN KNOWLES.

I chose my wife, as she did her wedding gown, for qualities that would wear well.--GOLDSMITH.

A married man falling into misfortune is more apt to retrieve his situation in the world than a single one, chiefly because his spirits are soothed and retrieved by domestic endearments, and his self-respect kept alive by finding that although all abroad be darkness and humiliation, yet there is a little world of love at home over which he is a monarch.--JEREMY TAYLOR.

A man may be cheerful and contented in celibacy, but I do not think he can ever be happy; it is an unnatural state, and the best feelings of his nature are never called into action.--SOUTHEY.

It is not good that the man should be alone.--GENESIS 2:18.

The most unhappy circumstance of all is, when each party is always laying up fuel for dissension, and gathering together a magazine of provocations to exasperate each other with when they are out of humor.--STEELE.

When thou choosest a wife, think not only of thyself, but of those God may give thee of her, that they reproach thee not for their being. --TUPPER.

An obedient wife commands her husband.--TENNYSON.

No man can either live piously or die righteous without a wife. --RICHTER.

Two persons who have chosen each other out of all the species with a design to be each other's mutual comfort and entertainment have, in that action, bound themselves to be good-humored, affable, discreet, forgiving, patient, and joyful, with respect to each other's frailties and perfections, to the end of their lives.--ADDISON.

Man is the circled oak; woman the ivy.--AARON HILL.

A man of sense and education should meet a suitable companion in a wife. It is a miserable thing when the conversation can only be such as whether the mutton should be boiled or roasted, and probably a dispute about that.--DR. JOHNSON.

Go down the ladder when thou marriest a wife; go up when thou choosest a friend.--RABBI BEN AZAI.

Were a man not to marry a second time, it might be concluded that his first wife had given him a disgust for marriage; but by taking a second wife he pays the highest compliment to the first by showing that she made him so happy as a married man that he wishes to be so a second time.--DR. JOHNSON.

Though fools spurn Hymen's gentle pow'rs,
We who improve his golden hours,
By sweet experience know,
That marriage, rightly understood,
Gives to the tender and the good
A paradise below.
--COTTON.

As a walled town is more worthier than a village, so is the forehead of a married man more honorable than the bare brow of a bachelor. --SHAKESPEARE.

God the best maker of all marriages.--SHAKESPEARE.

A light wife doth make a heavy husband.

The following "marriage" maxims are worthy of more than a hasty reading. Husbands should not pass them by, for they are designed for wives; and wives should not despise them, for they are addressed to husbands:--

1. The very nearest approach to domestic happiness on earth is in the cultivation on both sides of absolute unselfishness.

2. Never both be angry at once.

3. Never talk at one another, either alone or in company.

4. Never speak loud to one another unless the house is on fire.

5. Let each one strive to yield oftenest to the wishes of the other.

6. Let self-denial be the daily aim and practice of each.

7. Never find fault unless it is perfectly certain that a fault has been committed, and always speak lovingly.

8. Never taunt with a past mistake.

9. Neglect the whole world besides rather than one another.

10. Never allow a request to be repeated.

11. Never make a remark at the expense of each other,--it is a meanness.

12. Never part for a day without loving words to think of during absence.

13. Never meet without a loving welcome.

14. Never let the sun go down upon any anger or grievance.

15. Never let any fault you have committed go by until you have frankly confessed it and asked forgiveness.

16. Never forget the happy hours of early love.

17. Never sigh over what might have been, but make the best of what is.

18. Never forget that marriage is ordained of God, and that His blessing alone can make it what it should ever be.

19. Never be contented till you know you are both walking in the narrow way.

20. Never let your hopes stop short of the eternal home. --COTTAGER AND ARTISAN.

Mothers who force their daughters into interested marriage, are worse than the Ammonites who sacrificed their children to Moloch--the latter undergoing a speedy death, the former suffering years of torture, but too frequently leading to the same result.--LORD ROCHESTER.

Let us no more contend, nor blame
Each other, blamed enough elsewhere, but strive
In offices of love, how we may lighten
Each other's burden, in our share of woe.
--MILTON.

The world well tried, the sweetest thing in life
Is the unclouded welcome of a wife.
--WILLIS.

A wife is a gift bestowed upon a man to reconcile him to the loss of paradise.--GOETHE.

Heaven will be no heaven to me if I do not meet my wife there.--ANDREW JACKSON.

If you wish to ruin yourself, marry a rich wife.--MICHELET.

Marriage is the strictest tie of perpetual friendship, and there can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity; and he must expect to be wretched, who pays to beauty, riches, or politeness that regard which only virtue and piety can claim.--DR. JOHNSON.

When I said I would die a bachelor, I did not think I should live till I were married.--SHAKESPEARE.

The good wife is none of our dainty dames, who love to appear in a variety of suits every day new; as if a good gown, like a stratagem in war, were to be used but once. But our good wife sets up a sail according to the keel of her husband's estate; and if of high parentage, she doth not so remember what she was by birth, that she forgets what she is by match.--FULLER.

Of earthly goods the best, is a good wife.--SIMONIDES.

Take the daughter of a good mother.--FULLER.

Jars concealed are half reconciled; 'tis a double task, to stop the breach at home and men's mouths abroad. To this end, a good husband never publicly reproves his wife. An open reproof puts her to do penance before all that are present; after which, many study rather revenge than reformation.--FULLER.

Every effort is made in forming matrimonial alliances to reconcile matters relating to fortune, but very little is paid to the congeniality of dispositions, or to the accordance of hearts.--MASSILLON.

A good wife is heaven's last best gift to man; his angel and minister of graces innumerable; his gem of many virtues; his casket of jewels; her voice his sweet music; her smiles his brightest day; her kiss the guardian of his innocence; her arms the pale of his safety, the balm of his health, the balsam of his life; her industry, his surest wealth; her economy, his safest steward; her lips, his faithful counselors; her bosom, the softest pillow of his cares; and her prayers, the ablest advocates of heaven's blessings on his head.--JEREMY TAYLOR.

A married man has many cares, but a bachelor no pleasures.--DR. JOHNSON.

MEDITATION.--Meditation is the soul's perspective glass, whereby, in her long removes, she discerneth God, as if He were near at hand. --FELTHAM.

Meditation is the life of the soul; action is the soul of meditation; honor is the reward of action; so meditate, that thou mayst do; so do, that thou mayst purchase honor; for which purchase, give God the glory. --QUARLES.

MELANCHOLY.--I once gave a lady two-and-twenty receipts against melancholy: one was a bright fire; another, to remember all the pleasant things said to her; another, to keep a box of sugar-plums on the chimney-piece and a kettle simmering on the hob. I thought this mere trifling at the moment, but have in after life discovered how true it is that these little pleasures often banish melancholy better than higher and more exalted objects; and that no means ought to be thought too trifling which can oppose it either in ourselves or in others.--SYDNEY SMITH.

Melancholy sees the worst of things,--things as they may be, and not as they are. It looks upon a beautiful face, and sees but a grinning skull.--BOVEE.

There are some people who think that they should be always mourning, that they should put a continual constraint upon themselves, and feel a disgust for those amusements to which they are obliged to submit. For my own part, I confess that I know not how to conform myself to these rigid notions. I prefer something more simple, which I also think would be more pleasing to God.--FÉNELON.

MERCY.--Let us be merciful as well as just.--LONGFELLOW.

Consider this,--
That, in the course of justice, none of us
Should see salvation: we do pray for mercy;
And that same prayer doth teach us all to render
The deeds of mercy.
--SHAKESPEARE.

Among the attributes of God, although they are all equal, mercy shines with even more brilliancy than justice.--CERVANTES.

God's mercy is a holy mercy, which knows how to pardon sin, not to protect it; it is a sanctuary for the penitent, not for the presumptuous.--BISHOP REYNOLDS.

It is enthroned in the heart of kings,
It is an attribute to God himself;
And earthly power doth then show likest God's
When mercy seasons justice.
--SHAKESPEARE.

There is no better rule to try a doctrine by than the question, Is it merciful, or is it unmerciful? If its character is that of mercy, it has the image of Jesus, who is the way, the truth, and the life. --HOSEA BALLOU.

The quality of mercy is not strain'd;
It droppeth as the gentle rain from heaven
Upon the place beneath: it is twice bless'd;
It blesseth him that gives, and him that takes;
'Tis mightiest in the mightiest; it becomes
The throned monarch better than his crown.
--SHAKESPEARE.

Lenity will operate with greater force, in some instances, than rigor. It is therefore my first wish to have my whole conduct distinguished by it.--WASHINGTON.

Teach me to feel another's woe,
To hide the fault I see;
That mercy I to others show,
That mercy show to me.
--POPE.

Underneath the wings of the seraphim are stretched the arms of the divine mercy, ever ready to receive sinners.--THE TALMUD.

Sweet mercy is nobility's true badge.--SHAKESPEARE.

MERIT.--There is merit without elevation, but there is no elevation without some merit.--LA ROCHEFOUCAULD.

Distinguished merit will ever rise to oppression, and will draw lustre from reproach. The vapors which gather round the rising sun, and follow him in his course, seldom fail at the close of it to form a magnificent theatre for his reception, and to invest with variegated tints and with a softened effulgence the luminary which they cannot hide.--ROBERT HALL.

On their own merits modest men are dumb.--GEORGE COLMAN.

The art of being able to make a good use of moderate abilities wins esteem and often confers more reputation than real merit.--LA BRUYÈRE.

The mark of extraordinary merit is to see those most envious of it constrained to praise.--LA ROCHEFOUCAULD.

METHOD.--Method is essential, and enables a larger amount of work to be got through with satisfaction. "Method," said Cecil (afterward Lord Burleigh), "is like packing things in a box; a good packer will get in half as much again as a bad one." Cecil's despatch of business was extraordinary; his maxim being, "The shortest way to do many things is to do only one thing at once."--SAMUEL SMILES.

MIND.--Our minds are like certain vehicles,--when they have little to carry they make much noise about it, but when heavily loaded they run quietly.--ELIHU BURRITT.

We ought, in humanity, no more to despise a man for the misfortunes of the mind than for those of the body, when they are such as he cannot help; were this thoroughly considered we should no more laugh at a man for having his brains cracked than for having his head broke.--POPE.

It is the mind that makes the body rich.--SHAKESPEARE.

A weak mind is like a microscope, which magnifies trifling things, but cannot receive great ones.--CHESTERFIELD.

Were I so tall to reach the pole,
Or grasp the ocean with my span,
I must be measur'd by my soul:
The mind's the standard of the man.
--DR. WATTS.

The mind is its own place, and in itself
Can make a heaven of hell, a hell of heaven.
--MILTON.

The blessing of an active mind, when it is in a good condition, is, that it not only employs itself, but is almost sure to be the means of giving wholesome employment to others.

He that has treasures of his own
May leave the cottage or the throne,
May quit the globe, and dwell alone
Within his spacious mind.
--DR. WATTS.

The mind grows narrow in proportion as the soul grows corrupt.--ROUSSEAU.

Every great mind seeks to labor for eternity. All men are captivated by immediate advantages; great minds alone are excited by the prospect of distant good.--SCHILLER.

Mind unemployed is mind unenjoyed.--BOVEE.

As the mind must govern the hands, so in every society the man of intelligence must direct the man of labor.--DR. JOHNSON.

As the soil, however rich it may be, cannot be productive without culture, so the mind without cultivation can never produce good fruit.--SENECA.

Few minds wear out; more rust out.--BOVEE.

There is nothing so elastic as the human mind. Like imprisoned steam, the more it is pressed the more it rises to resist the pressure. The more we are obliged to do, the more we are able to accomplish. --T. EDWARDS.

Minds of moderate calibre ordinarily condemn everything which is beyond their range.--LA ROCHEFOUCAULD.

Guard well thy thoughts: our thoughts are heard in heaven.--YOUNG.

It is the mind that maketh good or ill,
That maketh wretch or happy, rich or poor.
--SPENSER.

He that has no resources of mind, is more to be pitied than he who is in want of necessaries for the body; and to be obliged to beg our daily happiness from others, bespeaks a more lamentable poverty than that of him who begs his daily bread.--COLTON.

A good mind possesses a kingdom.

MIRTH.--Harmless mirth is the best cordial against the consumption of the spirit; wherefore jesting is not unlawful, if it trespasseth not in quantity, quality, or season.--FULLER.

Mirthfulness is in the mind, and you cannot get it out. It is the blessed spirit that God has set in the mind to dust it, to enliven its dark places, and to drive asceticism, like a foul fiend, out at the back door. It is just as good, in its place, as conscience or veneration. Praying can no more be made a substitute for smiling than smiling can for praying.--BEECHER.

Care to our coffin adds a nail, no doubt;
And ev'ry grin so merry draws one out.
--PETER PINDAR.

There is nothing like fun, is there? I haven't any myself, but I do like it in others. O, we need it! We need all the counterweights we can muster to balance the sad relations of life. God has made many sunny spots in the heart; why should we exclude the light from them?--HALIBURTON.

I love such mirth as does not make friends ashamed to look upon one another next morning.--IZAAK WALTON.

Mirth is God's medicine. Everybody ought to bathe in it. Grim care, moroseness, anxiety,--all this rust of life, ought to be scoured off by the oil of mirth. It is better than emery. Every man ought to rub himself with it. A man without mirth is like a wagon without springs, in which one is caused disagreeably to jolt by every pebble over which it runs.--BEECHER.

MISFORTUNE.--The diamond of character is revealed by the concussion of misfortune, as the splendor of the precious jewel of the mine is developed by the blows of the lapidary.--F.A. DURIVAGE.

A soul exasperated in ills, falls out
With everything, its friend, itself.
--ADDISON.

We have all of us sufficient fortitude to bear the misfortunes of others.--LA ROCHEFOUCAULD.

The good man, even though overwhelmed by misfortune, loses never his inborn greatness of soul. Camphor-wood burnt in the fire becomes all the more fragrant.--SATAKA.

Who hath not known ill-fortune, never knew
Himself, or his own virtue.
--MALLET.

Little minds are tamed and subdued by misfortune; but great minds rise above it.--WASHINGTON IRVING.

Misfortunes are, in morals, what bitters are in medicine: each is at first disagreeable; but as the bitters act as corroborants to the stomach, so adversity chastens and ameliorates the disposition.--FROM THE FRENCH.

When one is past, another care we have;
Thus woe succeeds a woe, as wave a wave.
--HERRICK.

The greatest misfortune of all is not to be able to bear misfortune. --BIAS.

I believe, indeed, that it is more laudable to suffer great misfortunes than to do great things.--STANISLAUS.

Our bravest lessons are not learned through success, but misadventure. --ALCOTT.

The less we parade our misfortunes the more sympathy we command. --ORVILLE DEWEY.

It is a celebrated thought of Socrates, that if all the misfortunes of mankind were cast into a public stock, in order to be equally distributed among the whole species, those who now think themselves the most unhappy would prefer the share they are already possessed of, before that which would fall to them by such a division.--ADDISON.

We should learn, by reflecting on the misfortunes which have attended others, that there is nothing singular in those which befall ourselves. --MELMOTH.

Most of our misfortunes are more supportable than the comments of our friends upon them.--COLTON.

MOB.--The mob has nothing to lose, everything to gain.--GOETHE.

The mob have neither judgment nor principle,--ready to bawl at night for the reverse of what they desired in the morning.--TACITUS.

The scum that rises upmost, when the nation boils.--DRYDEN.

The mob is a sort of bear; while your ring is through its nose, it will even dance under your cudgel; but should the ring slip, and you lose your hold, the brute will turn and rend you.--JANE PORTER.

Inconstant, blind,
Deserting friends at need, and duped by foes;
Loud and seditious, when a chief inspired
Their headlong fury, but, of him deprived,
Already slaves that lick'd the scourging hand.
--THOMSON.

Let there be an entire abstinence from intoxicating drinks throughout this country during the period of a single generation, and a mob would be as impossible as combustion without oxygen.--HORACE MANN.

MODERATION.--Unlimited activity, of whatever kind, must end in bankruptcy.--GOETHE.

A thing moderately good is not so good as it ought to be. Moderation in temper is always a virtue; but moderation in principle is always a vice.--THOMAS PAINE.